Podcast #13 – Stop Living Someone Else’s Dream
Most online workout instructors, health models, and fitness gurus look more like they are selling soft core porn than actual trying to deliver valuable information.
I’m not trying to say that there isn’t a place for idealized, beautiful people, but in a marketplace with generally confused consumers there is a lot more being sold than meets the eye.
Physical Health and mental health are intertwined and equally important for overall health and happiness. You need equally healthy halves to have a healthy whole.
If you don’t take care of your body you will suffer with less energy, focus, and probably be less fulfilled. BUT you can’t use the body to do what the brain needs to do – if you punish yourself and beat your body into submission without addressing the deeper questions of who you are and what matters to you, you’ll lack an ability to actually enjoy having “a great body”
When people diet down to minimal body fat and model or compete on stage, they’re generally in a very unhealthy state and it is definitely unsustainable. Everyone wants to look like that 24/7 without understanding that it’s not desirable or attainable.
As corny as it sounds, the journey of improving your health and fitness is truly more about learning to appreciate and love yourself. Because the sad spoiler alert is that if you don’t address that before hand or along the way, you will feel empty and exhausted when you get there.
People use exercise as an excuse to avoid that ALL the time. Some people jump in 110% to stay so busy that they can avoid the difficult work, other people avoid exercise with excuses and procrastination and live a sad story in their head about being too busy or just blaming other people. Unfortunately, your body is the one that takes the hit for all of this stuff.
So you have to ask yourself – “WHY” – Why do I want this? Why is this important for ME? Why now?
Do you really care about looking like that Instagram model you follow or would you really be happy with losing 10 pounds of fat? Do you really want to bench 400 pounds or would you be happy with a strong upper body that doesn’t hurt.
Take the time to think about what you actually want in life – not what someone else wants or thinks is important. Most choices happen in this order – Feel better if you’re in pain or sick. Look better to stop carrying around baggage and unnecessary weight, then perform and live better to do what you actually want to do.
Find someone to help you get out of your own way, someone who you trust and who has your best interest in mind. Just a heads up, Social media following doesn’t always correlate to coaching ability.
